A Single Important Reason Why A Man Walks Out Of A Love Relationship With A Woman
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I was having few drinks at the senior executive club few days ago with the company directors from Belgium when a colleague said this words “It sucks to have a wife that makes you feel like a stranger in your own house” My colleague is a highly respected, admired and a reputable manager in Hargy Oil Palm Limited, a agribusiness company under SIPEF group of companies based in Belgium.
That sentence inspired me to write this hub. I have long tried to establish the single most important reason why a man walks out of a relationship. Of course there are countless reasons why men walk out of relationships. But we want to be very specific here so that you don’t get yourself confused.
Obviously one of the first question that comes to the mind of a women when a relationship breaks is “What did I do to make him leave?
Just like using SEO to search for an answer of your choice in goggle, you have to do specific search. Ok! Open up your goggle browser and type in the question -Single Important Reason Why Men Walk Out Of A Relationship - What do you get? Millions of websites that gives you millions of reasons why a men walks out of a relationship. The question is “What answer is correct? To be at least accurate in your search in the countless search engines in internet, you follow certain steps that lead to what specific answer you’re looking for or a few of them you combine to build your own knowledge base.
Here is no different. Ask any single man living on this planet the question what is the single most Important Reason Why Men Walk out Of a Relationship? Again billion answers. Uh! Confuse and frustrated? Answers may vary from sex, finance, love, family, job, personal attributes, education, culture and the list is infinite.
The single most important reason that has been overlooked all this years is “Admiration”
You may be saying, Ok! What’s with the admiration that you are bluffing about?
I can prove beyond reasonable doubt that men crave for admiration in a relationship. We men long to have great sex life, better financial status, an adorable family, better education etc etc. Why? So that we can be admired not only those in the society but our wives or girlfriends.
A religious fanatic may tell me. We don’t seek admiration in the church. Great! I agree with you. But let me ask you this. The last time you delivered a great sermon and few members complimented “That was a great sermon” Did you feel anything at all or nothing? If you did feel a tingling kind of satisfaction deep within you? That feeling of satisfaction came about because of the approval you got from others. Why do they approve your action? Because they admire you or if not, what you did.
One wants to have some recognizable social status in the society. If not given that in the society, than that person will seek admiration from those very close to him. Be it close friends or family.
Attention and admiration is unquestionably the biggest need of a man in a relationship. How do you as a man feel when your woman doesn't appreciate what you provide be it sex, love, money and just about anything?
You feel unappreciated right! So you have highest tendency to look elsewhere. To the women, if your men don’t feel appreciated and admired, what is it there for him to stay?
Small things count.
· Do you laugh at his jokes as you used to when you first dated?
· Do you tell him how great he looks in his new shirt?
· When was the last time you kissed him and tell him what a great dad he was for taking the kids out when you went to visit your girlfriends?
· Do you give him a passionate, steamy sex like the first time you were dating or just a quickie because you have to go to work?
This hub makes a women look a slave here but that’s reality. There’s no such thing as a good man. A good man and a good relationship is built and it’s not hereditary.
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Ok...I'll be looking out. I can't wait to hear the male perspective on why a woman would leave. Should be interesting!
I think you are absolutely right. I don't care much what others think about me- I don't need the newest gadgets,etc but my husband does and I can see how right you are about this subject. Great article!
I was reading "ksha001" comments and I understand you are giving one side to this topic because women need their men to do certain things for us too.
I think I had relationships figured out until my husband and I had kids then other needs overtake the relationship. It's all different then.
I agree that men crave admiration... just as women crave security... it's the reason we all get together... He has security and women have the ability to praise more readily... as we all begin to mature though... each side has started to take from the other... and that's when it gets interesting... women who need admiration... true admiration not just to get her into the sack... and men who can give praise without needing anything from it... here's a note from my man.." I fall short, telling her how I feel...walking by... I can't help but notice her gate... I recognize her laugh in the crowd... her fragrance compliments each garden as she walks...there just ahead.... Her wisdom... although unconventional... is a place, for me to convene....I'm in forty years...I still sigh.. catching my breathe. .. clueless on becoming one...with the one...that's been the most beautiful one.... to me"...
and here's my response..."he holds my weakness like it's his treasure... turns my tears to morning mist... lays me down a top his favorite mountain... made my son with one eternal kiss… shows me how to part the waters... tells me I should willingly try... he laughs... creates... I asked what’s most important ... he whispered softly... it's you and I"... love is truly a two way street... there is no walking out if there is communication... to much history involved to start a new... I'm in forty two years... how bout you...lol.... enjoyed the read...
I totally agree - but then I'm Indian :) And let's face it - men are simple creatures. You hang on his every word and he's yours for life :D
A great huh and thanks for sharing.
Has to have an up up and away.
Take care and enjoy your day.
Eddy.
there must be some truth in what you have said!
i remember being told by a close male friend,
champions go to where they are celebrated!
I read the women leaving article first. I left a comment there as well. I enjoyed it very much. I enjoyed this one just as much. I have read the books you mention. I find your explanations to be much better.
Those books seemed to be slanted toward the woman holding onto the relationship and changing to make things work (my opinion only).
I refuse to be the only one working at the relationship. If he isn't willing to do research, reading and discussing things, I am not willing to stay and work it out.
I don't mean to sound argumentative. I am at a loss for how to say these things nicely.
Hi BrokenDreamer
I am glad you read both hubs. In the first hub, my argument sound like women are slaves. NO. That was not my intention. I just wanted to show how we men tend to thinks this days about the very we claim to love yet expect so much in return..Thanks for dropping by and commenting.
You are so right...we need to make sure we tell our men what we want to hear.....or they will find it some where else...great hub..I voted way up...debbie
Thanks ian...be blessed
Admiration does not go far in my book but the lack of it can be destructive. Trust me most men leave and have no admiration left inside. If admiration was so important they would have never allowed it to fall so far and if anything its probably more important to women then men. I think this is more about ego and personality then life and its realities.
I believe that admiration feeds the ego, therefore the two are tied together.
I, once, dated a man who said, "I don't need admiration unless it feeds my ego right..." lol I guess he was right! I hope I can learn from all this experience I have as well as the experience available here on HubPages!
I am Indian man, so I will first address Shalini Kagal's comments. Historically, Indian Culture and Tradition was always in favor of men. Men are the bosses and women are the servants, in fact, there was a time in history in Hinduism when a woman cremates herself with her dead husband. In today's modern world, things have changed tremendously, and women are more independent, and they do not tolerate the double standards any longer, at least for the most part. I disagree with Shalini again that men are simple creatures and if you hang onto their every word, they are yours. Pull that stunt on me and you're gone. I think that any man with a decent intellect will pick up on it quickly and then the most important factor in a relationship is shattered - TRUST! We all have egos, men tend to be more egotistical, however, EGO IS NOT A BAD THING, it is what pushes us. It is like everything else in life, EXTREME is never good. There is a very, very important variable in a relationship that is very critical and that is PERSONALITIES!! There are four types of personalities, DISC. I will not going into all of them, but just as an example - D's like to kill a cow, skin it and eat it right away. Have two head strong personalities that thinks that it my way or the highway, and you figure out the rest. This applies to both men and women, it is not exclusive to men. LOVE is a great thing, never be afraid to LOVE. Be honest in your praises and compliments and everything else. TRUST, LOYALTY, and UNDERSTANDING WILL ALWAYS WIN THE MOMENT/DAY. "Love does not make the world go around, but it make the ride a lot more fun."
Danny Chetram - Email- danny@chetram.com
I guess I did not put enough emphasis on "right". Ahh, well... Live and learn. lol
Interesting hub. I think you might be on to something here. Womens needs in a relationship are much different than mens. I guess the kind of attention each partner wants is unique to them?
Ian, you are one of my favorite writers! I wish I could spend more time reading and writing, but the outside world keeps dragging me back into it again and again! lol

















ksha001 Level 1 Commenter 4 months ago
Mhhhmmm...interesting! I actually love this subject. However I must ask, why do you put all this responsibility on the woman to keep her man? I must disagree with you about there being no such thing as a good man! A good man is all that posses qualities that their partners deem "good", and a man must posses those qualities before entering a relationship. If not, he'll require all the necessary attention that your hub speaks about. However, I'm not saying a woman shouldn't pay attention to her man but I don't think she's the sole reason a man would wander.